Comment from Witt
Time July 25, 2010 at 2:10 am

Hey, Joy…the question of the moment is–shallow or not shallow…and if so, does it still matter?

A girl I was dating once told me that she had prayed for a guy with abdominals like mine…more specifically than that…obliques like mine. Besides bolstering my ego…and presently existing as motivation to get back into the shape 2006…that comment sort of left me asking, “what the heck?” I felt a little like it was not fair. I’d been under this impression that having physical preferences (or a type, if you will) like slender arms or sexy ankles, or even a bust preference (i feel like thats sort of in the same ball park as praying for certain obliques) was shallow and not necessarily ok…especially considering the prevalent self image problems seemingly commone to God’s masterpiece of creation.
Do ladies tend to have a physical type they prefer…perhaps even specifics that are non-negotiable? And whether or not they do, is it necessarily a bad thing if a guy has certain physical “guidlines” he’d like to adhere to?

Comment from alece
Time July 25, 2010 at 8:28 pm

(you are seriously so cute. you know how many takes it would’ve taken me to get that right!?)

Comment from Brett
Time July 26, 2010 at 8:58 am

Joy,

Most are aware that men and women communicate very differently. We’ve all been told as guys to ‘listen and try to understand, don’t immediately respond in attempt to problem solve.’ Good advice. However, I’d like to know how much guys should – or should be expected – to ’step-to-your-side.’ I think the general consensus seems to be: guys are terrible communicators, and therefore need to learn to communicate more like the ‘experts;’ women.

There is obviously value to the way men communicate. Maybe not much, but at the very least, some. What is a ‘healthy balance’ to strike when communicating with someone who does that very thing so differently than you?

Comment from Joy Eggerichs
Time July 26, 2010 at 1:01 pm

Alece – You assume I got l-o-v-e-a-n-d-r-e-s-p-e-c-t-n-o-w@gmail.com on the first take? You are sorely mistaken my friend. (-:

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Time July 27, 2010 at 2:35 am

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Comment from Elizabeth Ng
Time July 27, 2010 at 3:59 pm

Dearest Cousin,

My friend Megan is a teacher and one year had a kid in her class whose full legal name was Darth Vader Smith. I don’t actually know the last name, I made that up. But he had everyone call him “Dar” because he didn’t like his name. Poor kid.

Comment from Chasen
Time July 29, 2010 at 4:33 pm

What are some new ways to affectionately remind my wife that she is my everything?! Also, how do I meet her needs both emotionally and conversely when I am already drained from my day at work?
Chuck Debordio

Comment from Joy Eggerichs
Time July 29, 2010 at 5:24 pm

Chuck – Unfortunately your great question didn’t make the cut. I just uploaded my responses to YouTube. However, my advice would be for you to buy her chocolate and flowers. Errr..no. Sometimes it might seem “unromantic” to ask this, but I think verbally saying just what you said…and then a tad bit more…for example:

PookieShmooks: “Cuddlebunz, I wish I knew how I could serve you better. When I come home from a long day at work, what do you need from me?”

Cudlebunz: “Well PoolkieShmooks, I would love if we could ______. And I really like it when you take the time to do __________.”

PookieShmooks: (thats you by the way) “Great. Here’s what I was thinking…when I come home, I am super stoked to see you…but I am exhausted. The job is just killing me right now…Would it be cool if I had _____ min/hour to myself so I could just decompress? Then I feel like I could serve you better.”

Something like that…just a suggestion…but my thought is that by you wanting to see how you can meet her needs, she will want to meet yours. It just helps to lay out what is most energizing to you both. Approaching it from the view of “serving” one another makes anyone feel incredible.

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Time August 5, 2010 at 2:37 am

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